Our feeling of having power or lacking power comes from our experience in everyday, moment-to-moment transactions.  read more »

Sometimes the more oppressed person needs to scream and shout, express deep emotion, anger, and fear before s/he can listen to what other people think, want, or need.  read more »

When we don’t say no, we water down our agreements, our commitments, and our focus.  read more »

In an ideal world, we would ask for 100% of what we want, 100% of the time, listen to what others want, and negotiate to agreement.  read more »

It seems like an annual, national delusion - what makes us think that we’re going to succeed in making a resolution work THIS year, when we’ve abandoned them in every other instance?  read more »

 Most of us are so accustomed to fast forwarding past discomfort into new activity that the moment of discomfort may not even reach our conscious awareness.  read more »

People are numb because they have trained themselves not to feel, often for very good reasons, the ache of living, and they are numb because they have no language for what they are experiencing.  read more »

Ka-boom!  Now we’re in the landscape of the traditional novel writing process, creating scenes and identifying protagonist and antagonist, helpers and obstacles, motivating actions, coincidences, and catastrophes.  read more »

Write tasty!  Just as in cooking, the layers of narrative character, point of view, and perspective add richness to the stew of your novel.   read more »

What I want to say, loud and clear, is that you must find your way through the mire of advice and head-nodding, the certainty that others will have about what is essentially one of the most personal processes on the planet.  Your novel can only come about when you make the commitment to yourself to be true to your process, your characters, and the aliveness of your dream.  read more »